I'm not politically correct. I would rather be hated for who I am, than to be loved for who I'm not...
No one knows! That’s the question that Men have asked since the beginning of time. They give you a list of demands and when you oblige, they say it’s not enough. I’m tired of trying.
This is why marriages fail, divorces happen, and you end up with a world of broken children who no longer believe in true love. I’m just getting this off my chest.
What do you think?
When a woman respects a man, he’ll always have the energy he needs to love her unconditionally.
If you love someone then the best thing you could ever do for them is to love them just the way they are. I have always gotten along best with people who accept me the way I am and don’t try to force their way of doing things onto me.
Relationships are the same way… Loving your partner should be easy. However, learning to see the positives in what others may perceive as a negative, is hard to do. But this is a skill that’s worth mastering. For instance, if you girl has a massive attitude problem: I look at that as being very passionate about what she believes in.
The key is to not become overly sensitive to the actions and to understand that people aren’t perfect. I’ll elaborate on this topic in the coming days…
A wise woman knows the importance of speaking life into her man. If you love him: believe in him, encourage him and be his peace.
The problem is that most young girls these days aren’t raised to understand how to be a great wife.
REASON #1: Talking to the police CANNOT help you.
If the police are talking to you, it’s because they suspect you have committed a crime. If they have detained you, it’s because they already have enough evidence to arrest you and they want to see if you will admit it and thus, give them an even stronger case against you.
If they have evidence to arrest you for a crime, they will. If they don’t, they won’t. It’s as simple as that.
Talking to them or not talking to them won’t make a difference! No one has ever “talked his way out of” an arrest. If the police have enough evidence to arrest, they will. If you deny that you committed the crime, they will not believe you. They already have evidence suggesting that you committed the crime. They’ll assume you’re just doing what every criminal does in denying the offense. It will not prevent you from getting arrested.
This is completely contrary to popular belief. For some reason, many people think that they are savvy enough
or eloquent enough or well educated enough to be able to talk to the police and convince the police not to arrest them. But ask any police officer if because of the eloquence and convincing story of the suspect, they have ever been convinced not to arrest somebody whom they had originally intended to arrest, and they will tell you no. They will tell you that in their experience, no one has ever talked themselves out of getting arrested. Talking to the police cannot help you. It cannot prevent you from getting arrested. It can only hurt.
REASON #2: Even if you’re guilty, and you want to confess and get it off your chest, you still shouldn’t talk to the police.
People plead guilty in America every day. Probably over 90% of defendants in state court plead guilty at some point during their case. There is plenty of time to confess and admit guilt at a later stage of the proceedings. What’s the rush? Get a lawyer first. Let the lawyer set up a deal whereby you get something in exchange for accepting responsibility for the offense. A better plea bargain, or maybe even immunity. If you confess to the police, you get nothing in return. Zero. In fact, you probably get a harsher prosecution because the state’s case is now airtight, now that you have confessed.
REASON #3: Even if you are innocent, it’s easy to tell some little white lie in the course of a statement.
This kind of thing happens all the time. A person who is completely innocent and who is trying to vehemently assert their innocence will go overboard and take it a little bit too far and deny some insignificant fact, tell some little white lie, because they want to sound as innocent as possible. But if the police have evidence of that lie, it makes your entire statement look like a lie. The prosecutor will ask: “Why did he lie to the police? Why indeed would he lie to the police, unless he were guilty?”
That little white lie could be used to destroy your
credibility at trial.
An example would be a man who is questioned about a murder. He wants to sound innocent. He wants to sound non-violent. He is, in fact, innocent. So he denies everything. He denies the killing. He denies being in the area where the killing occurred on the night that it occurred. He denies owning a gun, and denies that he has ever owned a gun in his whole life. But it Turns out that this last statement is not true, And the police can prove it. He did at one time during his life own a gun. Now he has told a lie and the police have caught him and things will only go downhill from there. Although he is innocent of the murder, he has told a lie that will be used to destroy his credibility at trial and could be the cause of his conviction.
REASON #4: Even if you are innocent, and you only tell the truth, and you don’t tell any little white lies, it is possible to give the police some detail of information that can be used to convict you.
For example, a suspect is being questioned about a murder. He is truly innocent of the murder. But in the course of explaining his innocence, he makes the statement that he never liked the victim, because the victim was not a nice guy. A statement like that could be used to prove motive.
Or in the course of the statement, the suspect might admit that he was in the area of town where the murder was committed at the time it was committed. Although he’s innocent and although this statement is true, the prosecutor could use that statement to suggest that the suspect had the opportunity to commit the crime, which looks very bad in front of a jury.
REASON #5: Even if you were innocent, and you only tell the truth, and you don’t tell any little white lies, and you don’t give the police any information that can be used against you to prove motive or opportunity, you still should not talk to the police because the possibility that the police might not recall your statement with 100% accuracy.
What if the police officer remembers something wrong? What if he remembers you said “X” when actually you said “Y”? If the police officer takes the witness stand and contradicts your statements at trial, it will kill your credibility. You can take the witness stand and say “I never said that!” But it’s your word versus a police officer. Who’s the jury going to believe? Who will the jury assume is lying to save his own skin? Who will the jury believe is lying because he’s really guilty? You guessed it. YOU!
REASON #6: Even if you’re innocent, and you only tell the truth, and your entire statement is videotaped so that the police don’t have to rely on their memory, an innocent person can still make some innocent assumption about a fact or state some detail about the case they overheard on the way to the police station, and the police will assume that they only way the suspect could have known that fact or that detail was if he was, in fact, guilty.
Example: Suppose a police officer is questioning A suspect about a homicide. And the suspect makes the statement “I don’t know who killed the victim. I’ve never owned a gun in my life. I don’t even like guns.” On it’s face, there’s nothing incriminating about that statement. But suppose at trial, the prosecutor asks the police officer if anything about that statement surprised him. The police officer answers “Yes, it surprised me when the suspect mentioned a gun, because I had never mentioned a gun before that. I merely told him that I was investigating a homicide.”
When the officer said there has been a homicide, the suspect may have simply assumed that the killing was done with a gun. Or the suspect may have overheard in the police station some other officer talk about the fact that it was a shooting. But if the officer taking the statement had never mentioned a gun or a shooting, and the suspect makes the statement that he had never owned a gun, you give the prosecution the opportunity to create some high drama, suggesting that suspect has had a Freudian slip, and has made a statement about a gun because he is, in fact, the murderer. And as the murderer, he knew that a gun was used.
REASON #7: Even if you’re innocent, and you only tell the truth in your statement, and you give the police no information that can be used against you, and the whole statement is videotaped, a suspect’s answers can still be used against him if the police (through no fault of their own) have any evidence that any of the suspect’s statements are false (even if they are really true).
Suppose the police have a statement from a witness who claims to have seen the suspect in the area where the crime was committed at the time of the incident. Suppose further that this witness is actually wrong, but has made an honest mistake. The suspect then gives a statement to the police in which he says he was nowhere near the area where the crime took place at the time of the incident. By giving the statement, the suspect has now created a conflict between his own statement and the statement of this witness. By itself, the statement of the witness that he or she saw the suspect in the area at the time the crime was committed is not that useful. But by giving this statement, and creating a conflict with this witness’s statement, the suspect has now made this relatively minor witness into the government’s star witness.
The jury will hear the conflict and will assume that the suspect is lying and wonder why.
So even if you tell the complete truth, you’re putting your cards on the table without first seeing what evidence the government has. And if the government has some bit of evidence which, through some honest mistake, contradicts part of your story, you set yourself up to be portrayed as a liar by giving a statement without first knowing what evidence the government has.
REASON #8: The police do not have authority to make deals or grant a suspect leniency in exchange for getting as statement.
People tell me all the time that they gave a statement to the police because the police told them that they would be better off if they confessed, better off if they admitted what they did wrong, better off if they cooperated. The police will make vague statements that things will go easier on the suspect if he simply admits what he did wrong. The police will also make vague statements suggesting that they will do what they can to help the suspect, that they will put in a good word for the suspect, if the suspect will just come clean.
Number One thing to remember: The police do not have authority to make deals, grant immunity, or negotiate plea agreements. The only entity with that authority is the District Attorney in state court and the U.S. Attorney in federal court. Despite their claim that they are trying to help you, the only help police are providing when they take your statement is giving you rope with which to hang yourself.
REASON #9: Even if a suspect is guilty, and wants to confess, there may be mitigating factors which justify a lesser charge.
Mitigating factors are rarely brought out by the police in an interview. Normally, police want to focus on the facts that will suggest the suspect has committed the most severe crime possible. In fact, the suspect may have committed a lesser grade of offense. And if given the opportunity to talk to an attorney first, the attorney may be able to explain to the suspect what facts are important in establishing that he is guilty of a lesser grade of an offense, and not a higher grade. A confession presented in this context to the District Attorney’s office might result in a lesser charge and a more appropriate and fair penalty.
REASON #10: Even for a completely honest and innocent person, it is difficult to tell the same story twice in exactly the same way.
If you tell your story one time at trial and you tell the truth and you’re innocent, there’s very little the prosecutor can do by way of cross examination. But if you’ve told your story twice, once at trial, and once previously in a statement to the police, many months apart, the chances are very high that, even if you are telling the truth, some little details in your statement are going to change.
A good cross examiner will pick up on these changes and will relentlessly question you about them in an effort to make it look like you are lying.
So for all these reasons, whether you are guilty or innocent, whether you want to confess or want to exonerate yourself, whether you’re poorly educated or the most eloquent speaker in the world, you should NEVER, EVER, under any circumstances, give a statement to the police when you have been detained as a suspect.
Note: Credit for some of the Top Ten Reasons goes to Professor Dwayne at Regent University Law School.
Those 1000 people injured in Russia by the meteor shower should be checked to see if they have super powers.
I’m just saying…
It played out like a Hollywood film… cop killer cornered in a cabin in the woods. Police perform a successful operation that renders the subject dead from a self started fire. Bullshit!
Let’s look at the history and I’ll try to be brief… Dorner accuses another officer of using excessive force on a disabled person, That officer denies the allegations and Dorner is said to have falsified a report against another officer, which ultimately leads to his termination.
Fast forward to the present… he comes back and kills the officer who had a hand in getting him fired and a young couple related to another officer.
Killing innocent is bad and I would be riding with him 100% if he only killed cops. I know some people will get mad at that last sentence… SO WHAT. Kill yourself. I know real cops who are good guys and even they can’t stand cops. The LAPD is an illegal organization involved in drug dealing, killing, and racial profiling.
What they did to him in the end was just wrong. There’s no official police protocol that calls for burning down the house that a suspect is occupying. Recordings from the event even caught police saying, “Burn that sh*t” and “get the gas”! What part of the Police handbook is this??
Reminds me of how they killed John Wilkes Booth after he assassinated Abraham Lincoln. They say he burned to death in that barn fire. BULLSHIT! They cornered him, shot him and set that barn on fire. You think these police wanted to catch him alive and give him and fair trial… NO. Justice was indeed carried out… street justice.
Some brave journalist will get their hands on that manifesto and will thoroughly investigate all the allegations that Dorner laid out. And hopefully the LAPD will be exposed on a national and mainstream level for being full of dirty cops.
As always I encourage you all you to read and pay attention for yourselves so that you develop your own opinions. This is mine. I’m still going through the manifesto myself and it’s eye opening.
What do you think?
My People… I understand the aggression that comes with being a minority with a history of suppression, slavery, and shame. I understand how sometimes we don’t always get a fair shot. I understand that we have to be mentally tougher therefore we raise our children to have somewhat of a chip on their shoulders. With that said, I believe that sometimes we become overly consumed with things we have no power to change. Sure the government sucks, sure racism is rampant, sure the schools are below average, and sure the justice systems tends to favor a certain demographic or financial position.
Hey I’m Black too and I do understand. BUT, we are only on this Earth for ONE lifetime. Please don’t spend all of your energy being mad at the world. I know some people who complain about the way things are ALL the time. These are people with children and wives and good jobs and are blessed above average. I get it. I watch the news a lot and I get pissed off too. But once I finish complaining, I look at my wife and my baby girl and all that God has blessed me with and I become grateful. I’m raising a daughter and I’m responsible for my family. I don’t have time to be angry at the world. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t stand up for something. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t fight against injustice and unfairness. I’m not saying accepting that way things are is okay. I’m simply saying don’t let it consume you to the point that you become an angry black person. Don’t let it affect you being a better Father, Husband, friend, brother, sister, Mother, or employee.
That’s just how I feel. What do you think?
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Russian President Vladimir Putin just signed a bill that bans the adoption of Russian children by U.S. families. CNN says the action could affect hundreds of American families seeking to adopt. Americans adopted close to 1,000 Russian children last year, according to U.S. State Department figures.
To me that’s GREAT NEWS! There are some who’ll disagree but allow me to explain myself…
There are over 127,000 children currently in foster care, here in the United States of America, who need adoptive families.
That means families looking to adopt will hopefully look domestically at children right here in their own backyards who need loving families to come home to. It’s been well noted that children in Foster care are slightly less likely to become productive citizens and are more likely to end up incarcerated.
This is probably the best thing that Russia has ever done for us besides give us great Vodka.
According to the Census there are roughly 10 million children living with just a single Mother. That’s almost 30% of all children in the United States.
So… I know this girl named Kesha. Kesha is a good girl. She’s a church leader, a great daughter, an amazing friend and overall cool person. Kesha’s Father was in her life, but not really. What I mean is that he was in and out. He wasn’t consistent. He wasn’t there during the really important times. He wasn’t there to install the things that a young woman needs to feel confident. He wasn’t there to affirm her worth. He wasn’t there for Kesha’s Mother… and because he wasn’t there, Kesha yearns for that higher male attention. The love & care that was absent Kesha will try to replace with unworthy substitutes who won’t see her for her true self, but rather a gullible and easy way to get what they want.
Kesha is interested in this guy I know. For identity sake let’s say his name is Phil. Phil is a good guy. Church member, proud father, and works everyday to provide for his children. Kesha likes Phil even though she knows Phil is in a relationship. Phil tells Kesha all the time that they’ll never be a couple but rather good “friends”. Kesha doesn’t hear that. What she tells herself is, “If I stay in the good ‘friend’ zone long enough, I’ll be able to send that other chick packing and become his woman”. Kesha is sadly mistaken. Kesha throws herself at Phil. Kesha has sex with Phil. Kesha then expects for things to change between herself and Phil. Sorry Kesha.
Kesha is thirsty. Thirsty for the attention she never received. Thirsty for a man to call her’s. Thirsty to be confirmed and wanted by a man.
FATHER’S MUST SUPPLY WATER! We have an entire generation of thirsty women who are attracted to any man who shows them a little attention. I understand that sometimes relationships don’t work out and people separate, but just because you separate from the Mother, doesn’t relieve you of your responsibilities as a Father. Throwing money at the situation doesn’t help either. BE THERE to tell your daughters at a young age, how beautiful they are, how strong they are, how smart they are, how they can achieve anything. BE THERE to take them places. BE THERE so that when a guy like Phil comes along she’ll have the confidence to tell Phil that she won’t accept being second and that she has standards and morals. Standards that a guy like Phil will either have to step up to, or step aside.
Fortunately Jesus is our Heavenly Father and believing and trusting in him gives us all the confidence needed to accept nothing but the best.
Father’s be there for you daughters.